3 Months In: What it’s like living in Malaysia

View from condo room in Kuala Lumpur

It’s my 3rd month in Kuala Lumpur and I thought I’d share with you guys what it’s like living here in Malaysia.

I know it’s a short amount of time and my points of view can still change, but at least it can give you a hint of the life of a Filipino expat here.

Nice and friendly locals

I used to think that Filipinos are the friendliest, but as I meet more people from different parts of the world, it becomes clear that we have so much room for improvement. We are hospitable and proud to foreigners, but we aren’t always in our best behavior with each other.

It was a pleasant surprise to know that the locals in Malaysia are genuinely nice. I remember that when I had come here I contacted a lot of unit owners for room viewing. When I’d finally decided on which one to get, I informed the rest about it as courtesy. Filipinos sent me a curt “Ok” (which, if you know Filipinos, implies that they were personally offended), and Malaysians gave a longer response, such as, “Okay, thank you for informing me.” I don’t know about you, but this is pretty telling to me.

It’s actually difficult for me to describe eloquently what I mean by saying the locals are “nice.” I don’t have a grand anecdote to share. When I’d asked my close friend Agnes for an example, she cited this one time that she returned a bunch of bananas that didn’t ripen to the fruit store. The owner replaced it with a fresh bunch, and when she said thank you, the store owner got confused. “Why are you thanking me?” We were amazed that this occurred without a cat fight, or a long argument at the very least.

I think the best way is to say, it’s the little acts of kindness that count. People smiling in elevator rides, a stranger offering to share an umbrella when it rains, and so on.

Communication in English is a bit of a struggle

Perhaps my “great struggle” in living in Malaysia is communication. A good chunk of the population speaks decent English, but there are also those who don’t understand a word. Here, knowing rudimentary Malay is a must, but even then it isn’t always enough. It’s like some locals have a radar so when they sense that you are a foreigner, even your use of Malay words comes off as alien.

I also find it challenging to converse in English with Chinese locals, who speak fast and with characters omitted. A lot of times, I have to ask them to repeat themselves and even then I am still clueless (what is “chawren”?). The other times I just laugh or nod and say, “Hmm.”

More importantly, in a career field that is strictly based on requirements, this is something I have to get used and adapt to. (P.S. I work here as a software engineer. If you want to go abroad to travel longer, here’s a list of travel jobs you can take.)

Malaysian cuisine is one of the best in the world

Malaysian food is great, and the locals know it. During commute to work, Grab and Uber drivers often ask me (1) what I think of the country, (2) what I think about the food — always in that order. I say I love the food, and it’s true.

I’m not a great fan of Filipino cuisine, to be honest. For someone who is passionate about life and food, it just doesn’t live to standards. We do have some good dishes (sinigang has long been a favorite of mine), but I think in general there is lack of focus on quality as well as innovation. In addition, new restaurants in the recent months design their menu based on passing fad, not on food quality. So you’ll always see new items on menu (a burger and pizza in one, etc), but taste-wise are just so-so.

Loh see fun
Loh see fun.

Malaysian cuisine is diverse, with Malay, Chinese and Indian dishes. Currently, my favorites are: roti canai and teh tarik for breakfast; nasi goreng, Hainanese chicken, kuey teow or char siew noodles for a full meal; and taufufa for dessert. Oh, and those sticks of chicken satay you can buy from food trucks starting at late afternoon.

Related Read: Favorite foods in Malaysia

Another thing that I like is how locals put effort into making their food. I read in a Malaysian blog that local stalls make their noodles and other ingredients, and this makes the food more authentic. In fact, the best way to tour a guest around is to eat in regular eateries rather than splurging on expensive (sometimes Westernized) restaurants.

It’s easy to get into healthy living

Fruit stall in Kuala Lumpur

If you’re health conscious or trying to be one, you’ll love how easy it is to get fresh fruits and vegetables in Malaysia.

Where I’m staying, there’s at least four stores selling produce: a grocery mart, one dedicated fruit stall and two food stores. There’s also an abundance of shops selling organic body and household products.

Weather: hot and rainy seasons

Some people say that the weather conditions here is similar to that in the Philippines — the hot and rainy seasons. But, may I add, with significant differences.

Rains here in Kuala Lumpur only lasts one or two hours at most, and it’s pretty much tolerable. In the Philippines, an hour of rainfall can cause a traffic jam nightmare that lasts a whole night.

Bukit Jalil Park, Malaysia
Lots of green spaces. Bukit Jalil Park.

I also read that Malaysians are aware of how hot it can get in some days, and that’s why there’s a lot of trees for cover. Back home in the Philippines, trees are cut down, green spaces are converted to airconditioned malls and parking lots. (I am looking at you Baguio and that ongoing construction in Ayala Triangle.)

As for the hours, I love how sunrises and sunsets are later compared to that in the Philippines. It’s still a bit dark at 7am, perfect for sleeping in, and light at 6-7pm, so I feel that there’s still much I can do after going home from work.

Local businesses are supported and thriving

There is a lot of local businesses thriving in Malaysia. For someone who grew up with Western brands dominating the market or otherwise local brands that are part of a few successful chains, this is nothing short of amazing.

For instance, there are mamaks, hawker stalls and other restaurants run by families. Meanwhile, in the Philippines, you can see the same food chains again and again: there’s Jollibee, Greenwich and Mang Inasal (owned by the same umbrella company); McDonalds, and so on. There are monopolies in the market, and local brands find it difficult to break through due to lack of support.

Here, people seem to patronize their own.

Downside: Limited attractions to see

Kuala Lumpur is great, but it’s also a typical city with limited attractions. Day trips here are also few: there’s the usual Cameron Highlands, Penang, Langkawi, Melacca and so on.

That’s the one thing I miss about the Philippines. We have over 7000 islands and so much to offer: endless mountains, fields of rice terraces and beaches, beaches, beaches.

Even for weekend trips, there are a lot of options. You can go hiking to the rice terraces in Batad or Maligcong, go up a mountain like Mount Pulag, island hop in nearby provinces such as Pangasinan or Mindoro or sneak in a quiet spa retreat up in the mountains of Antipolo.

Every country has its plus points, I guess.

Why living in Malaysia is a breather from years in the Philippines

In general and in a lot of ways, living in Malaysia is great. Food is amazing, the locals are nice and friendly. It’s no wonder Kuala Lumpur is often listed as a top expat destination. Furthermore, tax is lower compared to the Philippines (as of this writing) and cost of living is low. From 300 to 600 ringgit, you can get a small- to medium-sized room in a nice condo, with a pool.

Condominium pool in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia
Pool in our condo.

It’s actually not just in the things that Malaysia offers, but also in those it doesn’t — the traffic and pollution in Metro Manila, the daily complaints, the toxicity of people in the social media… everything we Filipinos live with but would like to escape from. Here, it is generally more peaceful and I daresay livable.

Obviously, 3 months is a short time to completely get to know a place much more a country, but it’s enough to get a feel of what it’s like. Presently, as you can tell, I have a great impression of Malaysia.

Have you been to Malaysia? What are your thoughts about it?

7 Comments

  1. I admire you for being brave to travel and explore and even lived there. I do feel that I can live in some Asian Countries and I do agree with you with both pros and cons. I am currently in PH but soon will leave again as I feel after almost 15yrs being away my standards changed and my life from previous Countries cannot be compared to here because of so many reasons but I still love PH though. It is really good to explore the World so we’re aware which part is the best for us. 🙂

    1. Somehow I am touched with what you said. I’d only been abroad for a few months and I do appreciate the peace, convenience and quality of life offered here as compared to my home in the Philippines. Yes I do love the PH but a part of me understands why some people move away permanently… Unlike other Filipinos who do so with a feeling of hopelessness or condescension for the country, I understand that the PH – like all other places in the world – has good and bad qualities, and ultimately the decision to stay or leave is based on how you want to take care of yourself and those around you.

      Good luck and I hope you enjoy the rest of your stay in the PH! 🙂

  2. I’ve always loved reading posts like this! May draft rin ako about what it’s like to live here in Abu Dhabi pero hinihintay ko pa mag-ilang months pa just so I can write more. Hehe. And shoutout talaga sa Baguio na ‘yan, nako! Hahaha

    1. Ooh. Looking forward to reading about your experience in Abu Dhabi. 🙂 Honestly to me the Middle East seems scary and so it’s interesting to know abt expats’ perspective on it.

  3. Interesting blog post Tara, timely for me to read as I’ll soon travel to Kuching Malaysia to check it out as a possible home base to live in.

    Great to hear people are positive and friendly, that’s the most important thing to me when living somewhere really.

    I was a bit surprised to read that most people in Malaysia don’t speak English though. Because most Malaysian people that I met in Boracay did speak English, and there an online Malaysian forum also, where English is the main language.

    Anyway, interesting to get an impression of Malaysia like this, looking forward to try out the food 🙂

  4. Hi Katherine!
    Nice post. We’re thinking of going to Malaysia in March and I’m happy to read your comment. We miss Asian cuisine and having been to Penang a long time ago I already look forward to the food (especially the Indian cuisine which I remember being fantastic).
    Good to know you also find the people friendly.
    Frank (bbqboy)

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